How to Overcome the Fear of Intimacy

3 Simple Steps to Conquer The Threat of Deep Connection

Deep inside our souls we crave connection. We want true, authentic real heart-to-heart connection that penetrates the walls we've built up, and allow in the warmth of another's presence. This profound longing reflects our desire for a love that nourishes those parts who don’t feel deserving of love. By opening ourselves to this tender connection, we invite in a presence that fills our hearts with the deepest, most compassionate, heartfelt bond.

Yet, it’s ironic how this very thing that we desire in life, is also what terrifies us the most. The fear of intimacy is one of the deepest fears rooted in human existence, as it threatens to expose the vulnerable aspects of ourselves we’ve hidden from the world, and sometimes even from ourselves. In order to overcome the fear of intimacy we must take a journey into the worlds of patience, vulnerability, and self love.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

Why Do We Fear Intimacy?

At its core, intimacy is about being fully seen, felt, and accepted for who you are. This requires us to reveal our true naked selves, which can be frightening if we’re unsure what another might find. We fear their judgment, rejection, and the greatest trauma of them all… total abandonment.

This heart gripping fear always stems from emotional scars left behind from experiences where our vulnerability was not recognized, validated, or emotionally received. Instead we were met with some type of cold distant energy that didn’t meet us in the warm fuzzy space where real intimacy thrives.